I
am a loner, and there are times that I am really grateful for my
preference. This morning my coworker came into work three hours early
because he woke up early and, it being four in the morning, no one
else was up so he had nothing to do. As a loner I am seldom bored. I
am engaged with my own mind. There is never a shortage of books to
read or movies to watch or even puzzles to do. I am not dependent on
having other people around to have a good time. My life doesn't stop
because no one else is awake.
For
all the times I've been accused of "doing nothing" or
"vegging" because I spend most of my time alone, and for
being accused of having no life because I don't spend time with
friends I say: How is sitting at home and reading more "vegging"
than going to a bar or going to see a movie? Why is doing puzzles or
reading short stories alone "doing nothing" but going to a
sports game is doing something?
I
love being a loner because every day I get to take part in activities
that are interesting to me and I don't have to wait to do them. I
don't have to wait until the world starts to do something fun, and if
all of my friends are at work it doesn't make a difference to me. I
feel lucky that my plans aren't tied to someone else so I'm not at
someone else's mercy for my fun.
If
you're a loner and you get tired of people ragging on you for "never
doing anything" or calling you boring because you never go out
then remind yourself of how mentally diverse your life is. I know
it's easy for the "socials" of the world to get us down,
but how interesting is it really to go to a bar every weekend?
Also
recommended reading is Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto by Anneli
Rufus - "a
long-overdue argument in defense of the loner." Available as a
Kindle ebook or paperback through Amazon (affiliate
link).
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